WHO AM I INSIDE OF MY OWN HEAD ANYWAY?

PHASE I : SELF EVALUATION AND SELF-AWARENESS IN CONJUCTION WITH OUR EXPERIENCES ARE CRITICAL TO THE SUCCESS OF BREAKING DOWN THE PARTS OF OUR EXPERIENCES TO EVALUATE THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SELF AND THOSE THINGS TRANSPIRING IN OUR LIVES. 

 

DURING THIS PHASE OF YOUR ADVENTURE, I PLACE A METAPHORICAL MIRROR DIRECTLY INFRONT OF YOU TO HELP YOU EXPLORE, RECOGNIZE AND ACKNOWLEDGE THOSE THINGS CAUSING HARMFUL DISCONNECTIONS IN YOUR LIFE.  PHASE I IS WHERE YOU BEGIN TO UNDERSTAND AND PERSONALIZE YOUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE GOALS.  WE WILL DISCUSS TOPICS SUCH AS HOW YOU CURRENTLY REACT AND RESPOND TO EXTERNAL STIMULUS VS. HOW YOU AUTHENTICALLY WANT TO REACT AND RESPOND;  THE BENEFITS OF CHIN-CHECKING YOUR OWN BEHAVIOR AND IT'S INFLUENCE ON YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND EVERYDAY LIFE.  

 

"ONE-ON-ONE INTERACTION IS LIKE THE BLOOD FLOWING THROUGH OUR VEINS, WE NEED IT TO FUNCTION PROPERLY.  WITHOUT IT, OUR SYSTEM AND DEVELOPMENT LACK SUBSTANCE."

"I AM THE HELPER. YOU ARE THE HELPEE. MY SKILLS ASSIST ME IN HELPING YOU TO HELP YOURSELF."

FOOD FOR THOUGHT :

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU CAN TRUST SOMEONE?

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN SOMEONE HAS HEARD YOU?

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF SOMEONE AUTHENTICALLY UNDERSTANDS YOU?

THE VALUE OF FEELINGS :

WHAT EMOTIONS DO YOU FEEL REGULARLY?  ARE THEY POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE?  WHICH EMOTIONS DOMINATE AND DEFEAT YOU?  WHAT ARE THE ROOT CAUSES CREATING THESE FEELINGS?  HOW DO YOU INTERACT WITH THESE EMOTIONS, DO YOU OBSERVE AND CONTINUE TO MOVE FORWARD AS THOUGHTS COME AND GO OR DO YOU FIXATE AND ANCHOR YOURSELF TO YOUR EMOTION(S)?  HOW DOES THIS INFLUENCE YOUR BEHAVIOR?  HOW DOES ALL OF THIS APPLY TO YOU AND THOSE YOU LOVE; ARE YOU THE INSTIGATOR OR ON THE RECEIVING END OF SOMEONE ELSE'S EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER?

RACING MIND

PHASE II : SELF EVALUATION AND SELF-AWARENESS ALLOW EACH OF US A BETTER OPPORTUNITY TO PINPOINT THE WHAT, WHERE, WHY, WHEN AND WHO OUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE IS INFLUENCED BY AND HOW THAT STIMULUS IMPACTS OUR BEHAVIOR AND INTERNAL STATE OF BEING.  ONCE WE HAVE A CLEAR UNDERSTANDING OF OUR AUTHENTIC SELF, WE THEN ALLOW OURSELVES THE OPPORTUNITY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT WE DEEPLY DESIRE, NEED AND HOW WE SELF-SABOTAGE. 

 

DURING THIS PHASE, I TEACH YOU HOW TO PUT A WRENCH IN YOUR MENTAL GEARBOX TO STOP THE BUSY MIND CHATTER THAT NEGATIVELY IMPACTS YOUR MOJO.  MEANING, WHEN YOU CAN'T SEEM TO FUNCTION BECAUSE YOU CAN'T GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND YOUR EMOTIONS INSPIRE YOU TO FEEL OVERWHELMED AND DEFEATED, I PROVIDE YOU WITH THE TOOLS NECESSARY TO MINIMIZE THE CRAZINESS INSIDE OF YOUR BRAIN.

 

"GEARS CHANGE THE SPEED, TORQUE, AND DIRECTION OF A POWER SOURCE.  WHEN THE GEARS WITHIN OUR MIND RUN WILD, THEY BURN OUT, LOCK UP AND FAIL FUNCTIONALLY.  IT'S ESSENTIAL TO KEEP OUR GEARS ALIGNED AND RUNNING SMOOTHLY TO KEEP OUR MACHINE RUNNING WELL."

FOOD FOR THOUGHT :

HOW DO YOU COPE WITH YOUR THOUGHTS?

HOW DO YOU REACT TO YOUR EMOTIONS?

WHAT IS THE IMPACT OF YOUR BEHAVIOR ON YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND LIFE?

THOUGHT AWARENESS :

MIND CHATTER IS LOUD, IT GETS LOUDER WHEN WE ENABLE IT AND GOSSIP BACK AND FORTH WITH IT.  WHEN OUR THOUGHTS INFLUENCE THE RELEASE OF CHEMICALS WITHIN THE BODY, WE THEN BEGIN TO FEEL THE NEGATIVE IMPACT OF OUR MIND CHATTER PHYSICALLY.  ONCE WE BEGIN TO PHYSICALLY FEEL THE POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE AFFECTS OF OUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE AS IT INFLUENCES OUR INTERNAL OPERATING SYSTEM, WE HAVE THE OPTION TO EITHER ENCOURAGE THE CHATTER OR OPT OUT OF FEEDING IT.  WHAT DO YOU REGULARLY CHOOSE?  DO YOU FEED THE POSITIVE CHATTER AND ELIMINATE THE NEGATIVE? WHY OR WHY NOT?

MENTAL TOYBOX

PHASE III : NOW THAT YOU'VE COMMITTED TO BETTER UNDERSTANDING WHAT MAKES YOU TICK, FLIP AND FLOP, GET READY TO LEARN HOW TO PROPERLY USE YOUR TOOLS AND BEGIN BUILDING A SOLID COPING MECHANISM FOUNDATION.  THIS IS THE FUN PART, TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR OWN OPERATING SYSTEM.  LIKE DRIVING AN AUTOMOBILE, YOU'RE NOW AT THE WHEEL OF YOUR PERSONAL VEHICLE (YOUR BODY); IT'S TIME YOU LEARN HOW TO OPERATE IT EFFECTIVELY. "AUTO PILOT IS NOT AN OPTION."

 

DURING THIS NEXT PHASE, I PROVIDE YOU WITH YOUR OWN PERSONAL TOOLBOX COMPLETE WITH VARIOUS TOOLS DESIGNED TO KEEP YOUR MIND STRONG, CLEAR, CALCULATED AND PREPARED FOR WHATEVER COMES YOUR WAY, BECAUSE LET'S BE REAL, "LIFE IS NEVER GOING TO STOP HAPPENING."

 

"MIND GAMES AND HIGHER EDUCATION KEEP US ON OUR TOES, THEY KEEP US ENTERTAINED, INQUISITIVE AND CONSTANTLY CHALLENGING OURSELVES TO STRIVE FOR GREATNESS WITHIN OURSELVES SO WE'RE PREPARED FOR EVERYTHING OUTSIDE OF OURSELVES. "

FOOD FOR THOUGHT :

HOW DO YOU INTERACT WITH YOURSELF OR DO YOU?

HOW DO YOU CATER TO YOUR OWN NEEDS OR DO YOU?

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU THOUGHT ABOUT YOUR INNER CHILD?

STRATEGIC PLANNING :

WHEN WE WERE CHILDREN, IF SOMEONE TOLD US WE COULDN'T DO SOMETHING OUR NUMBER ONE GOAL WAS TO TRANSFORM THAT NO INTO A YES.  NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES SOMEONE SAID, "NO, YOU CANNOT DO THAT," OUR DETERMINATION TO TRANSFORM THAT TWO LETTER WORD INTO A THREE LETTER WORD WAS ENDLESS.  "AT WHAT POINT DID WE STOP AIMING FOR A YES AND JUST SETTLE FOR A NO?"  WELCOME BACK TO A TIME WHERE YOUR BODY AND MIND IS THE GOAL AND YOU ARE THE YES.

WISH LIST

PHASE IV : THIS IS THE PHASE WHERE YOU GET OFF THE HAMPSTER WHEEL AND SET PERSONAL GOALS. INSTEAD OF RUNNING IN CIRCLES FULL SPEED AHEAD, NON-STOP WITH A BOX FULL OF TOOLS AND NO IDEA WHAT TO USE THEM ON.  THIS IS WHERE YOU GET CLEAR. 

 

- I'M ELIMINATING THE BAD HABITS THAT CAUSE DISCONNECTS IN MY MARRIAGE

- I'M COMMUNICATING IN POSITIVE WAYS INSTEAD OF BEING CHRONICALLY NEGATIVE

- I'M EATING HEALTHIER SO I HAVE MORE ENERGY TO PLAY WITH MY CHILDREN

- I'M MAKING MORE TIME TO DO THE THINGS I LOVE TO GENERATE MORE INTERNAL HAPPINESS

- I'M QUITTING _________ TO HONOR MY INNER CHILD AND OVERALL HEALTH

"WHATEVER YOUR PERSONAL GOALS ARE, YOUR MENTAL TOYBOX WAS DESIGNED TO SUPPORT YOUR HIGHEST  QUALITY OF LIFE."

 SETTING PERSONAL GOALS HELPS CREATE A DESTINATION TO ARRIVE AT.  ONCE YOU HAVE AN IDEA OF WHAT YOU WISH TO ACHIEVE, TO IMPROVE YOUR OVERALL QUALITY OF LIFE, YOU THEN HAVE A MAP TO FOLLOW.  WITHOUT A MAP, YOU JUST AIMLESSLY WANDER HOPING YOU'LL ARRIVE SOMEWHERE GOOD.  TRUST ME, I LOVE TO WANDER, BUT NEVER WHERE MY HEALTH AND INTERNAL PEACE OF MIND ARE CONCERNED.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT :

WHAT DO YOU VALUE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?

HOW DO YOU CONNECT TO THOSE RELATIONSHIPS YOU VALUE?

WHAT ARE YOUR WEAKNESSES WITHIN YOUR MOST VALUABLE RELATIONSHIPS?

MAP MAKING :

WHEN WE WERE CHILDREN, IF SOMEONE TOLD US WE COULDN'T DO SOMETHING OUR NUMBER ONE GOAL WAS TO TRANSFORM THAT NO INTO A YES.  NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES SOMEONE SAID, "NO, YOU CANNOT DO THAT," OUR DETERMINATION TO TRANSFORM THAT TWO LETTER WORD INTO A THREE LETTER WORD WAS ENDLESS.  "AT WHAT POINT DID WE STOP AIMING FOR A YES AND JUST SETTLE FOR A NO?"  WELCOME BACK TO A TIME WHERE YOUR BODY AND MIND IS THE GOAL AND YOU ARE THE YES.

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